A Mother’s Advice To Her Daughter For Marriage

The Way of the Salaf us-Saalih

Indeed, the advice that is about to follow is beautiful and shows the superiority of the salaf (earlier generations of Islam) over the khalaf (later generations). It also shows, and Allah knows best, how the Salaf had deep knowledge of the religion of Allah and acted upon that knowledge. And indeed, they would not learn anything from the religion of Allah except that they would not move on unless they had acted upon it. As for us, then we do everything except acting upon the knowledge that we have. So may Allah rectify our situation and make us follow the salaf in truth and reality.

It would not be far from the truth to say that these words deserve to be inscribed in gold ink.

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Jamharah Khutah al-‘Arab, 1/145

Taken from: http://salafiummi.multiply.com

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Beware of the leaking bucket

drops-of-water-water-nature-liquid-40784.jpegThe Leaking Bucket……
Beware of the leaking bucket.

1.You wear hijab but with perfume. (a leaking bucket )
2. You’re following the Sunnah and have a beard but you don’t lower your gaze. (A leaking bucket)
3. You pray all of your prayers on time but you don’t adopt piety. (A leaking bucket)
4. You’re very kind to people and speak with them gently but with your family you’re always harsh. (A leaking bucket)
5. You honour and treat your guests well but when they leave, you gossip about them and talk about their flaws. (A leaking bucket)
6. You give a lot of Sadaqah to the poor but you humiliate them and hurt them. (A leaking bucket)
7. You stand up for tahajjud at night, fast and read Quran everyday but you cut your family ties. (A leaking bucket)
8. You fast and have sabr (patience) for the pangs of hunger and thirst but you swear, insult, curse. (A leaking bucket)
9. You help others but you’re doing it to gain something from them and not doing those acts of kindness for the sake of Allah and to earn His pleasure. (A leaking bucket)
10. You pray and fast, pay zakah and perform hajj yearly but indulge in zina and extramarital affairs (A leaking bucket)
11,You say one thing and mean another (A leaking bucket)
12. You derive pleasure in the sadness and tears of others (A leaking bucket)
13.You post reminders and have thousands of followers on facebook and instagram but you’re doing it for the fame, not to please Allah. (A leaking bucket)

Do not gather all your good deeds in a leaking bucket. You struggle to fill it whilst it easily runs out through the leaking holes!

Why was Khadijah (RA) so special to the Prophet Muhammad (saw)?

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He was young. Handsome. Of noble lineage. Of impeccable character. He was known as “The Truthful” and “The Trustworthy”. Yes, he was born an orphan and his financial standing was not the best when Khadija (ra) met him. But he, nevertheless, was the best of the best. The epitome of the human race, when Khadija (ra) proposed to him, was a young 25. 25, when she was 40 and widowed twice before, having bore children from both earlier marriages. He could have had any younger girl. Any virgin who did not carry with her the baggage of widowhood and children. So why, then, did he accept her proposal?

Two reasons come to my humble mind.

Firstly, the “he” in question was Muhammad (saw), a young man but not any man. Although he had not yet attained prophethood, yet he could look beneath the surface….the superficial. Khadija (ra) even on the…

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Ten Jewels for Women

IMG_20180301_230457I have collected ten jewels from the lectures of Shaykh Zulfiqar, Their sheen won’t fade with time… sparkling dazzling gems they are.
Adorn yourself with them today as I am giving them to you for free, The years of marital life will turn into a life of bliss and glee.

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First of all ensure that food is prepared whilst in the state of ablution, Your heart and tongue should be engaged in zikr and contemplation.
Such food will instill piety and take your family towards Allah’s obedience, It will dispel gloom and generate seeds of unity, love and patience.

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Second golden gem… never leave today’s task for tomorrow, or else things will pile up and become a source of grief and sorrow.

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Third gleaming jewel I place in your hand, is to keep your home clean, Innal-laaha-yuhibbut-tawwaabeena-wa-yuhibul-mutatahhireen.

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Never spread hearsay or rumour that’s your fourth ornament, Refrain from lying and passing hasty judgement.

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The fifth trinket, Make it a point to escort your husband, Part with him by giving duaas as you walk to the gate.
Bid your husband farewell with duaas like fee-amanillah, Whenever he leaves, hand your amanah over to Allah.

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The sixth gemstone, now that you are bejewelled with five, Clean and adorn yourself before it’s time for your husband to arrive.

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Let me now hand over to you the seventh precious stone, From the husbands family maintain good relationship with everyone.

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The eighth ornament, give Sadaqah, It prevents mishaps, increases sustenance and pleases Allah.

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The ninth jewel, for optional Ibadah you should set a fixed time, and a special corner where you can pray in peace for some while.
Nabi sallalahualayhiwasallam said: “Mid-Morning prayer (Duha/Chast) increases sustenance”, So don’t be negligent or you will face the consequence.

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The tenth jewel for today, Keep your conversations on the phone short, You will save time and be guarded from hearsay and backbiting.

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From the book: Working towards an exemplary married life, a collection from the lectures of Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi (hafizahullah)

Lessons a believer can learn from a tree

amazing-animal-beautiful-beautifull.jpgFrom a lecture of Shaykh Husain Abdul Sattar (hafizahullah)

Almighty Allah says in Surah 3, Aal-Imraan Verse 191, “Those who remember Allah while standing or sitting or [lying] on their sides and give thought to the creation of the heavens and the earth, [saying], “Our Lord, You did not create this aimlessly; exalted are You [above such a thing]; then protect us from the punishment of the Fire.”

When you spend time with those who do dhikr of Allah you notice the way they see the whole world as a reminder and manifestation of Allah Ta’ala and His Deen. The world and the entire creation becomes a Tasbeeh through which you remember Allah. Once Shaykh Zulfiqar (hafizahullah) mentioned about the signs of Allah and the Deen that a believer can take from a tree. There were many but I have recorded a few.

pexels-photo-302804.jpeg1. The tree takes from the ground and it gives to other people

A believer must take from what they have available and the primary focus must be to give and serve others.

pexels-photo-884547.jpeg2. Half of the tree is hidden and half is visible

The reality of the believer must remain hidden. A part of outward worship has to be seen by people, but the deeds of the believer must be secret between him and his Lord.

pexels-photo-762679.jpeg3. Much before the tree becomes visible, it first establishes its roots

As believers we must recognise that we must spend a lot of time establishing deep roots before we become visible and take a role of leadership in the community. People nowadays have no roots and have not taken time to establish them but want to be tall trees. If we truly desire to benefit people in Deen we have to first take the effort to develop very very deep roots.

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4. The tree stands totally still despite the varying seasons and conditions

Despite the winter and the summer, the cold and heat, the thunderstorms and rain, the tree stands firm. The same is the Imaan (faith) of a believer. Despite the turmoil and storms that afflict the believer he must be absolutely firm on faith.

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 5. The value of a tree is based on the fruit it produces

Similarly the value of a believer is based on the deeds he produces. If the believer is barren of good deeds like a barren tree no one will give him a second look.

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6. When people want the fruit from the tree they use sticks to get it

The believer will have to accept beating / hardship from some sticks in order for others to benefit from his goodness. Being a person of deen you must be prepared take a lot of knocks and this helps people to benefit from you and helps you get closer to Allah Ta’ala.

May Allah Ta’lala make us from those who ponder over His signs and from those who remember him while standing, sitting and laying down.

Securing Rewards in Marriage by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

IMG_20171202_000113The sawaab (reward) for the sabr (patience) a woman exercises over her difficulties in managing the home of her husband and fulfilling the rights of her husband and children sometimes is such, which makes her ‘reach’ Allah Ta’ala very quickly. This, however, is conditional to her obedience to Allah Ta’ala; fulfilling His Rights, the Rights of His Rasul (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam), as well as the Rights of His Creation.

Women who have a number of children, sometimes even a temperamental husband, together with many household chores and other responsibilities sometimes think that they cannot achieve the ranks of the Auliya Allah[1] because they do not have time for ‘wazeefas’[2] and Nawaafil (optional prayers).

I tell them that they need not worry about too many wazeefas. The most important ‘wazeefa’ is abstinence from all sins. Added to this they should just correct their niyyah or intention in all that they are doing as routine housework. Make the intention of pleasing Allah Ta’ala, then that same housework becomes Ibaadah. In this simple way, they will easily secure great rewards and the same spiritual stages, if not higher.

Similarly, the sawaab for the sabr (patience) a man exercises over his wife’s shortcomings, emotional outbursts or mood swings is a medium by which he too acquires great rewards and reaches Allah Ta’ala very, very quickly.

Many Auliyaa Allah reached great spiritual heights, and were accepted for tremendous service to Deen on the patience they adopted with their wives, and on the love, care, affection, tenderness and generosity they also extended to their wives.

Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) set the perfect example for husbands. Despite the tremendous responsibilities that he was entrusted with, he gave due attention and time to his wives and treated them with love and generosity. He was never harsh or insensitive towards any single wife.

Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) also said: “The best amongst the Believers is he is whose character is the best. And the best among you is the one who is best towards his wife.”


[1] Auliya Allah : Friends of Allah Ta’ala
[2] Wazeefas : additional, optional supplications

 

Does اَلله تعالى Love You?

Fragrance of Musk

design-on-woodA pious person says he was wondering if Allah loved him? So he checked the Qur’an to see what are the characteristics of the people Allah has mentioned He loves them for.

So he found that Allah loves Al-Muttaqeen (the pious),

He says, “I wouldn’t dare consider myself one of them”.

Then he found that Allah loves As-Sabireen (the patient).

So he remembered; “How impatient I am.”

He found that Allah loves Al-Mujahedeen (those who strive in His path),

So he remembered how lazy and powerless he was.

Then he found He loves Al-Muhsineen (those who do good deeds).

So he remembered how far he is from that.

He says:

“So I stopped searching to avoid more disappointment. I reflected on my good deeds, I found most of them are mixed with laziness, coldness, flaws and sins.

Then it came to my mind that Allah loves the at-Tawwabeen (those who…

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