Securing Rewards in Marriage by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh)

IMG_20171202_000113The sawaab (reward) for the sabr (patience) a woman exercises over her difficulties in managing the home of her husband and fulfilling the rights of her husband and children sometimes is such, which makes her ‘reach’ Allah Ta’ala very quickly. This, however, is conditional to her obedience to Allah Ta’ala; fulfilling His Rights, the Rights of His Rasul (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam), as well as the Rights of His Creation.

Women who have a number of children, sometimes even a temperamental husband, together with many household chores and other responsibilities sometimes think that they cannot achieve the ranks of the Auliya Allah[1] because they do not have time for ‘wazeefas’[2] and Nawaafil (optional prayers).

I tell them that they need not worry about too many wazeefas. The most important ‘wazeefa’ is abstinence from all sins. Added to this they should just correct their niyyah or intention in all that they are doing as routine housework. Make the intention of pleasing Allah Ta’ala, then that same housework becomes Ibaadah. In this simple way, they will easily secure great rewards and the same spiritual stages, if not higher.

Similarly, the sawaab for the sabr (patience) a man exercises over his wife’s shortcomings, emotional outbursts or mood swings is a medium by which he too acquires great rewards and reaches Allah Ta’ala very, very quickly.

Many Auliyaa Allah reached great spiritual heights, and were accepted for tremendous service to Deen on the patience they adopted with their wives, and on the love, care, affection, tenderness and generosity they also extended to their wives.

Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) set the perfect example for husbands. Despite the tremendous responsibilities that he was entrusted with, he gave due attention and time to his wives and treated them with love and generosity. He was never harsh or insensitive towards any single wife.

Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) also said: “The best amongst the Believers is he is whose character is the best. And the best among you is the one who is best towards his wife.”


[1] Auliya Allah : Friends of Allah Ta’ala
[2] Wazeefas : additional, optional supplications

 

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Does اَلله تعالى Love You?

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design-on-woodA pious person says he was wondering if Allah loved him? So he checked the Qur’an to see what are the characteristics of the people Allah has mentioned He loves them for.

So he found that Allah loves Al-Muttaqeen (the pious),

He says, “I wouldn’t dare consider myself one of them”.

Then he found that Allah loves As-Sabireen (the patient).

So he remembered; “How impatient I am.”

He found that Allah loves Al-Mujahedeen (those who strive in His path),

So he remembered how lazy and powerless he was.

Then he found He loves Al-Muhsineen (those who do good deeds).

So he remembered how far he is from that.

He says:

“So I stopped searching to avoid more disappointment. I reflected on my good deeds, I found most of them are mixed with laziness, coldness, flaws and sins.

Then it came to my mind that Allah loves the at-Tawwabeen (those who…

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Seven Ways to seek the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala in the first ten days of Dhul Hijjah

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1. Hajj

Try to do Hajj if you haven’t yet. If you are unable then make a firm intention to do it in the coming Dhul Hijjah. Even if you’re not in Makkah during the days of Hajj, the mercy on Allah is descending on the world in this time so be especially attentive with your heart towards this special mercy of Allah Ta’ala.

2. Saum/Fasting

In a narration of Tirmidhi it is narrated from Rasoolullah (SallalahualayhiWasallam) that one fast in these days is equal to fasting a complete year. Fast the first 9 days of Dhul Hijjah. Make a special effort towards this. It is Mustahab (meritorious) to fast on the ninth of Dhul Hijjah for those not performing Hajj.

3. Takbeer of Tashreeq

From Fajr on the 9th Dhul Hijjah upto asr on the 13th Dhul Hijjah it is obligatory to recite the takbeer after each fardh prayer. The takbeer is as follows: Allahuakbar Allahuakbar, La-ilaha illalaahu wal-laahu akbar Allahu akbar wa lil-laahil hamd. It is commendable for women to recite this takbeer in a low voice. The men will do it audibly.

4. To follow the sunnahs of the day of Eid

On the day of Eid, following the Sunnahs will be a menas of us gaining the love of Allah Ta’ala. The sunnahs of Eid are to wake early in the morning, to clean the teeth with siwak, to take a bath, use one’s best clothes, not to eat before the Eid prayer, apply itr, and to recite Takbeer aloud while going to the Eid prayer. Even our celebration must be a means of pleasing Allah Ta’ala.

5. Sacrifice of an animal

This is recognised by the Shariah as a means of worship on the tenth, eleventh and twelfth of Dhul Hijjah. This sacrifice must be after the Eid prayer. This is compulsory on every adult male and female who is sahibe nisaab (owns above the nisaab). Pondering on this, there is alot of wisdom in sacrificing. Through this sacrifice we will feel some level of spiritual opening and upliftment. Through this we will learn the spiritual temperament of Prophet Ibraheem AlayhisSalam and his family. The purpose of this month of Dhul Hijjah and the actions of Hajj it is for the ummah of Muhammad Sallalahualayhiwasallam to learn the mizaaaj and spiritual temperament of Ibraheem AlayhisSalam where he and his family were willing to sacrifice anything and everything for Allah Ta’ala. Pray to Allah Ta’ala during these days to bless you with this temperament. Allah Ta’ala wants our whole life, our days and our nights to be spent in submission and love of Him. Do the sacrifice with your own hands it will have more effect.

6. Worshipping in the nights of Dhul Hijjah

Worshipping in the nights of Dhul Hijjah equals to worship of laylatul qadr. Make a special effort to perform Tahajjud Salaah and make special Duaa.

7. Do more good deeds and more dhikr of Allah Ta’ala

No deeds are weightier to Allah Ta’ala than the good deeds in these first ten days of Dhul Hijjah. Increase the recitation of La-ilaha il-lallaah, Allahu akbar, Subhanallah and Alhamdulillah.

Unlawful Gazes – Tips for safeguarding oneself from the sin of the eye

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The following are few tips for safeguarding oneself from the sin of the Eye – “Unlawful gazes” by Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi Mujaddidi DB

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  ۚقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest [Surah 24. An-Nur, Ayah 30]

وَقُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest [Surah 24. An-Nur, Ayah 31]

Unfortunately, today, we live in a society where advertisement, billboards, newspapers, etc. attract us with obscene images. The west also attempts to destroy our faith by propagating the message of “SHYNESS is a SICKNESS”. It is difficult to save ourselves from this evil, as watching obscene images repeatedly destroys our modesty and makes us immune to obscenity.

‘Remember, if we do not cast veil over our eyes, then a veil will be cast over our hearts…

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An incident of Mawlana Thanwi (rahimahullah) – Not putting any creature in difficulty

unnamed (12)Always stay clear of causing distress to the heart of another being as this will lead to loss of blessings in your life.

Hazrat Thanwi (rahimahullah) writes about an incident where his wife needed to attend a gathering at her relatives. His wife requested from him to feed the fowls that she had in her care, to throw grain for them and provide fresh water as was her daily habit. Hazrat Thanwi (rahimahullah) agreed to see to it that the birds will get their daily feed. On the appointed day, his wife left. Now, work that a person is not used to doing as a part of his daily schedule easily slips his mind. Hazrat Thanwi (rahimahullah) therefore started his days’ work, making Wudu (ablution) and then sitting to write Tafsir-Bayanul-Quran. While sitting, Hazrat says: “My thoughts would just not flow!” After sitting like this for a while, Hazrat thought to himself that perhaps he had committed a sin which is blocking him from continuing his work and therefore he should make Istighfar (seek forgiveness). So Hazrat sat and made Istighfar for some time, sincerely asking Allah to forgive this sin which was driving away his knowledge. Hazrat says: “After making Istighfar for half an hour, I suddenly got the realisation that my wife had asked me to feed grain to the fowls and supply them with fresh water and I had slipped up in doing this. I stopped my writing and went home, only to find the fowls hungry and thirsty. Almost an hour had passed since their usual feeding time. I placed the grain and water and the fowls ate to their satisfaction. I then returned to my place of writing and immediately Almighty Allah put the details of the Tafsir in my mind.”

Subhanallah! By causing discomfort to a fowl which is such a small creature, Allah withheld the details of the Tafsir from his mind, yet we cause discomfort to the servants of Allah and expect to be blessed with divine help and guidance. A (true) Muslim is one from whose tongue and hands the next Muslim is safe. We must always be on guard that through our actions the heart of another is not being distressed. May Almighty Allah grant us the understanding.

From a lecture titled: Dil-Azari by Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi (may Allah elevate him). Download from tasawwuf.org

If Rasheed Ahmed doesn’t pick up their shoes, what else should he do?

images-38Hazrat Maulana Rasheed Ahmed Gangohi (Rahimahullah) would treat his students with great love and affection. Once it suddenly started raining while he was imparting a lesson to his students sitting in the compound of the Masjid. In order to prevent their books from getting wet in the rain, the students ran towards their rooms leaving their shoes behind. Hazrat Gangohi (Rahimahullah) spread a piece of cloth on the ground, placed the shoes of all his students on it, and carried the bundle on his head to the students. When the students saw this, they were amazed and astonished and said, “Why did you do so, we would have collected our shoes ourselves”. Hazrat replied, “The people who study قال الله (what Almighty Allah said i.e. The Quran) and قال الرسول (what the Blessed Prophet SallalahuAlayhiWaSallam said i.e. The Hadith), if Rasheed Ahmed doesn’t pick up their shoes, what else should he do?”

Source: Ba-Adab-Ba-Naseeb, Etiquette 2: How a teacher should be kind to his students and consider them as his sons. By Shaykh Zulfiqar Ahmad Naqshbandi (D.B)